The start of a new school year brings excitement, but it also sparks anxiety in children and teens. These feelings can be especially intense during transitions, such as starting at a new
school or moving to a different grade level, where children face unfamiliar environments and social circles. The fear of the unknown, coupled with academic or social pressures, can
cause significant stress. While back-to-school anxiety is natural, parents can play a crucial role in helping their children manage it effectively and approach the new year with
confidence.
1. Validate Their Feelings
Acknowledge your child’s concerns, no matter how minor they may seem. Whether it’s worrying about not having friends in class or dealing with a challenging teacher, these issues
can feel overwhelming. By validating their feelings, you show your child that their emotions are important and deserve attention. Reassure them by saying, “It’s okay to feel nervous,and I’m here to support you”.
2. Establish Routines Early
Structure and routine are comforting for children, especially when they are facing a period of change. Begin adjusting your child’s routine—such as sleep, meals, and study habits—well
before the school year begins. A consistent routine helps ease anxiety by providing a sense of stability and control.
3. Encourage Positive Thinking
Help your child shift focus from their anxieties by reminding them of the positive aspects of school. Ask them about the friends they’re excited to see, their favorite subjects, or
extracurricular activities. This can help balance their worries with the anticipation of enjoyable experiences.
4. Plan for the First Day
Preparing for the first day of school reduces the fear of the unknown. Help your child organize their backpack, choose their outfit, and pack their lunch the night before. If it’s a
new school, familiarize them with the building by visiting beforehand, if possible.
5. Model Calm Behavior
Children often mimic their parents’ emotional responses. If you’re anxious about the school year, your child may pick up on that. By modeling calm and positive behavior, you can help
reduce their stress. Focus on managing your own anxieties so that you can provide a supportive and reassuring presence.
6. Give Them Space to Talk—or Not
Not all children are ready to discuss their anxieties right away, and that’s okay. Let them know that you’re available to listen when they’re ready but avoid pressuring them. Simply knowing you’re there for support can be enough to help them through their worries.
Back-to-school anxiety, particularly during major transitions, is a common but manageable challenge. By listening to your child, establishing routines, and helping them focus on the
positive aspects of school, you can create an environment that eases their worries. Ultimately, both parents and children will benefit from approaching this transition with calm and patience, setting the stage for a successful and enjoyable school year.
Soraia Jamal | Psychologist
